Dearest Friends, I have some advice to give you. Tomorrow is not promised. This life is so short. I'm not in a depressed state as I write this. I am feeling wonderful. I'm praying for my son to have a good time at camp. I am hanging out with my sweet daughter. We are watching movies and just enjoying the day. I confess that I should have been cleaning. Instead, I slept and prayed and remembered those who have fallen and I am thankful to them for their service in light of Memorial Day this past Monday. I am thankful to their families who are grieving. This leads me to think about all who are grieving. You who are not grieving, hold on to your loves. Forgive easily. Hug and love on those who surround you. Remember the good and forget the bad.
I had been thinking about this concept and it had been floating around in my mind. James 1:19-20 states, "So then , my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God." (NKJV) I think of all the times I have not done what is instructed here in this verse. I have been quick to speak, slow to hear and quick to wrath. I have done this with my husband. It's easy to do the opposite with those we love best. It's like we take advantage of their love for us. I'm guilty of it. And now in light of this information and what I have been through, I will tell you to hold on tighter.
I find myself doing some things differently. I insist on hugging my children more. I remind myself that life is short and I'm not as patient as I used to be. Let me explain myself. I would wait for a good time to go to the movies. I would wait to go for a walk. I would wait to write or do work. I would procrastinate my life. I still do it sometimes. Bad habits are hard to break. Instead of waiting or procrastinating, I move. As Brad Pitt says in World War Z, "Movement is life. Movimiento es vida." I don't always know what I'm doing. You don't know what you are doing either but I am determined that I will try more things. I will choose to be happy and I choose to be grateful in this life for what I have. So... instead of letting go, hold on tighter. Don't be crazy and hold on to bad things. Hold on tight to the good.
When my husband died, I remember hoping that wives should hold on to their husbands while they had them. I wanted people to feel bad enough for me to be grateful. I know it's a weird thought but I was so thankful to God for allowing my sweet husband to go home. I understood how wonderful God is so clearly in those moments of utter devastation, and I had peace.
My daughter and I recently saw a movie together that was what we would call really girly. It was called Five Feet Apart. It's about this teenage couple that fall in love but can't be more than 6 feet away from each other at all times because they have Cystic Fibrosis and they can't develop this bacterial infection that they contract from other people with the disease. The message at the end of this movie is similar. Hold on, touch, go on ahead and love (Not like that!!!). It's so short.
It's over a year now. I'm not dating but I'm asking questions. What? You don't meet people walking in the streets anymore? Okay, so where do you meet people? I'm laughing. I don't know!!! I'm thinking of opening up a dating shelter. You come in and you sit in a cell and have other single people look at you with your dating bio on the cell next to you looking up with sweet eyes. Million dollar idea! Maybe it can be done for charity. I'm full of ideas.
Okay, so that's all for now. Remember, appreciate what you have while you have it and hold on tighter.