Wednesday, July 8, 2020

What is Attraction?

Now that I have started dating again, I am rethinking the nature of attraction.  At this point in time, I have gone on dates with 13 men.  It is a good thing that I am not triskaidekaphobic!!!  I want to ask, "What factor does looks have in this equation?"  I don't have a lot to go on.  I had a similar question when I started dating Santi.  I kept on thinking, "Is he handsome?  I can't tell."  It's true.  I really didn't think he was that good looking.  Not the same kind of good-looking that some of my other boyfriends were.  I liked him because he had an interesting mouth and he smiled easy.  This is the real reason why I stood there talking in the middle of the street with a perfect stranger that day over 2 1/2 decades ago.  

I think I've written about the guys that I went out with in the past.  Well... I mean during this second wave of dating.  I can see their faces in my head.  I think the hardest part has been adjusting my taste.  Unfortunately, I haven't seen Jason Momoa on any of the dating sites.  I did date a looker.  I went out on two dates with him.  Let's put it this way, a picture of a flower is a beautiful thing but it's definitely not the same thing as smelling one.  

This reminds me of a story of when I was younger and dating.  I was in college.  I took a Jazz History class.  He sat next to me in class.  Man, he was beautiful.  His name was Emerick.  After class he asked if he could walk me to the cafeteria.  I wasn't the only one that thought he was gorgeous.  One of my acquaintances asked me who he was.  She didn't even assume that I was seeing him.  He only had eyes for me.  He would meet me before class and sit next to me.  We would study together.  I got a lot of attention because of him but here's the deal.  He couldn't really hold a conversation.  He was just... pretty, a pretty trophy.  So no, not just another pretty face.  

I sincerely believe that God will lead me to someone one if it is His will to do so.  This may not have anything at all to do with attraction; but it makes you wonder what is attraction and how does it all work.  Because... sometimes what you want.  what you need, has nothing to do with attraction at all.  I always need me some Jesus and I don't have an inkling of what He looks like.  Attraction... I'll think about it.  Until then, Praise the Lord!

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